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爱上富家子弟,准婆婆极力反对终分手

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匿名  发表于 2021-04-01 10:52:48

爱上富家子弟,准婆婆死力否决终分手

两小我相爱,还不敷够。走入婚姻,你还需要跨过准婆婆的关卡。

爱问幸知

幸知:

你好!

我的事,可以从小时辰说起,我只管简短。

被适得其反的小孩习惯了挑选谅解

三岁时,怙恃离了婚,我跟母亲。怙恃仳离的来由很简单,父亲出轨,母亲一忍却没法再忍。

后来有了继父,虽然也有小打小闹,日子过得还算可以,可是在我18岁那年,母亲得了癌症,继父悉心伺候,母亲也算是走得美满。

母亲临终前挣得两套房产,都是我和继父配合一切,她叮嘱任何时辰,不要卖屋子,你们要这样在一路。

母亲归天后,很多工作变了。我和继父之间不存在信赖,毕竟还是各奔前程,只是分手的进程很疾苦,为了钱,我的代价观很倾覆,而且,他不再供给我学费。

那时辰我感觉自己就像个被适得其反的小孩,很是不得已地忍痛长高长大,从小纯真的我变很多疑,易怒。

生父供给了我读到大学结业的用度,而且希望我出国,他也会供给给我一笔钱作为留学用度。

出国前,熟悉了前男友,富家子弟,由于很是照顾我,对我来说很出格去他们家,家里人都对我笑呵呵的。他去加拿大,我去美国,临出国前,在他家住过一阵子,他妈妈帮我预备行李,临走前还抱着我哭了,那时我的心跳得很快,我想,我也许是找到了个好婆婆,她给我妈妈的感受。

出国两年中,发生了很多事。他会到美国来看我,我也会去加拿大找他,时候长了,我想定下来,经常说成婚的事儿,他压力大了,说心烦,分手吧。成果,第二天他从温哥华连夜坐飞机来找我。碰头后,他对我说,我们成婚吧,我感觉那时辰好幸运。第二天到了市政大厅,看着来交常常的新人,他出了一身的汗,看着我说,我们还是再斟酌下吧。我忍住了泪水,答应了。出了市政大厅的门,我哭得没人样。

越发戏剧化的事发生了,转天早晨,我拿他手机玩,偶然看到他的短信里有给他人发的“妻子,我在旧金山很好,这里很好玩”,大概“妻子晚安”之类的。

我诘责他是谁,他起头不认可,后来被我拿动手机问,他说,就是一时无聊,找个朋友。当天我疯了一样冲回我的黉舍,找到我表妹(我表妹和我一个黉舍,分歧专业)说这件事,表妹是个很是睿智和大纲契领的人,她对我说:“你们俩分手,早晚的事儿,假如你今晚受不了他的乞求,就这么回去,今后这事儿会再发生。”

当天,他不竭乞求我,威胁说活不了了,我想着究竟没发生关系,算了。成果去了他住的宾馆,那一早晨,我没走成。

他回了加拿大今后,我起头查这个女的,用匿名身份找她聊天,才发现,他回了加拿大他们还有联系,我把一切的聊天记录保存下来,就这样气得发抖地和她聊了很多天。终究有一天,我不由得了,把聊天记录发给他。他又各类电话攻势,说买个iPad给我看成赔礼道歉的礼物,说这是存了很久的钱(他妈一个月只给他400美圆米饭钱)。我不晓得谅解能否是也能成为惯性,就像出轨一样,我再一次谅解了他。

可是,尔后的一年里,每当他到旧金山看我,我都能发现他和阿谁女生聊天的痕迹,甚至偶然辰是三更,我们正睡着,她的信息就来了。他能编好多大话,说不是她。最初一次,我明说,有她没我有我没她,他才删了阿谁女生。删了她今后,我偷偷关注了她的微博,她在几个月今后生了个孩子,我推算,假如那时他去见她大概发生了什么,那我前男友,似乎便能够给人家带孩子了。为了这事儿,我经常嘲讽他,不晓得他做何感触,是逃过一劫,还是什么此外?

我返国后,他和他的家人都变了

后来,我先返国了。返国一年后,我四周的同事根基都成婚了,很多人问我我也很烦,我说我男友在加拿大,他们就问我们为什么不在一路。

我那时返国缘由有二:一是我在美国找不到合适的工作,国内这份工作是我这个专业能进的最好的公司,所以我想返来;二是我那时感觉前男友早晚有一天也会返来,由于我感觉他那样的富家子弟,不会尽力找工作的。

能够在我看来,钱对我来说很重要,我在美国练习挣的钱,一半请他和我去美国旅游,一半花在给他家人买礼物上。从美国返来,我给他妈妈买了一条爱马仕的丝巾(我实在感觉很责,可是能代表我的情意),他妈就拿起来看了一眼,放在那边说:“要不我把这丝巾的钱给你吧。”我那时听完心里出格怪,不晓得说什么好,就说:“不用了阿姨,假如我妈妈在,我也会给她买这个的,您收下就好。”我也总是感觉希奇,那时抱着我哭的阿谁阿姨,为什么在我返国今后对我那末冷酷,感受不像一小我,我不晓得发生了什么,我只晓得要对他妈妈好,就是对他好。

返国前,爸爸让我买点好衣服返来。我说为什么,他说又一次打电话给他妈,问我比来和他们联系没,他妈就说没有,然后顺势和我爸聊了几句,言语间流暴露对我着装的不满足,感觉我穿衣服随意,大大咧咧,甚至用了“破”这个字。我爸感觉很没体面,就和我说,让我多买好的工具,去他家看他妈,不能丢脸。总之,每次去看他妈,我都感觉心理压力很大,置装用度很高,我不晓得要给自己买什么,他妈才感觉我穿得不破褴褛烂。每次去,也是被高低端详,真的不舒服,所今后来很少去看她了。

客岁2月,他返国过年,我表妹也返国成婚,看到婚礼的排场,我感动得不竭流眼泪。当天宴席竣事,我回另一个城市上班,我家里人就找他谈我们的事,由于感觉家里一切的孩子都成婚了,假如合适的话,大师能坐在一路定一下我的工作也好,也不至于让我心里不竭悬着。家里人出于美意,但他由于这件事和他妈大吵一架,说我家里人不可一世,措辞像谈判一样,他问他妈能不能让我们成婚,他妈说有工作了再成婚,焦急什么,归正成果就是分歧意。那时我还和家里人翻脸,感觉没有我在,他们把这件事儿办得过分了,可是家里人很为我焦急,感觉我和他在一路那末多年,现在对方怙恃态度明显,只要我看不出来,怕迟误我毕生。他妈妈还特地找机遇说了一下这个事儿,说成婚不焦急,谈恋爱的感受挺好的,说成婚没什么意义,没有我设想得那末美好。这事儿不竭像把剑一样挂在我心上,天天我的心机都很繁重,感觉能否是我本来的感受错了?我感觉每次去探望他爸妈,他爸妈态度都挺好的,可为什么是这样的呢?

真相总是伤人的,我该若何走出来?

5月,我提出分手,缘由是我感觉太没有平安感了,不想不竭等下去,可是他不竭劝我,说快了,还由于这个事儿偷偷跑返国看我,我也感动了一把,心想那我再忍忍。9月,他奶奶归天了,他返来给他爷爷奶奶迁坟。阿谁9月就像一个令牌一样,由于他结业了,拿到了三年的工作签证,假如不竭拿着这个签证找工作,不返来,我就要不竭等着他,我不晓得什么时辰是个头。他和我说,工作今后就不能想返来就返来了,我说那我们此次把证领了吧。他说领证的意义在于什么呢,领证了我们还是分隔的,假如出了什么题目,越发麻烦。我一听就急了,我感觉他就是不竭拖着我,后来我就隔三岔五提分手,希望他能重视我。他大要也烦了,不想哄了。他返来以后没过几天就去故乡迁坟了。我那时伤风发热,嗓子化脓很难熬,一声都出不了,他没怎样关心我,他说故乡山上没信号,早晨和亲戚吃饭饮酒能给我打个电话就不错了。我那时的心态就是:我们异地恋三年,你不在的日子里,发热伤风我自己扛着,你在的日子里,明显在国内,关心的话也说不了几句吗?我再一次爆发,和他说既然这样,那就是心里没我,别找捏词了,分吧。他说回去再说,那几天就没联系了。我给他妈打电话,发信息,没人接没人回。成果过了几天他返来说他不服水土,拉肚子什么的。我约他进来谈,他和我说能否是又想说分手,我说我想晓得真相,我不相信你不竭说工作的事儿就这么重要,几多没工作的门生都能成婚,更况且我们情况这么特别,不成婚怎样定下来,他说他爸妈从一路头,到现在都分歧意我们在一路,他爸妈不爱好我,感觉我欠都雅,脾性倔强,等等。总之说完了,我听得出格解体。真相真伤人。

后来忘了什么事儿吧,他回加拿大今后,我们又闹了一次,就真的分手了。那段时候我出格难熬,就感觉全部分手的事儿,都是我自己作出来的,他以后找工作很顺遂,工作越换越好,我那时难遭到极点,心想假如那时能忍一忍,能再等等,他也有工作了,我们能否是就能成婚了。有一次我实在难熬,就决心去加拿大找他,到了加拿大,他说下雨了,就不出门了。就这样,我就被这么硬生生地拒绝了。几年的豪情,就这样竣事了。我后来给他打电话问他,他说那次是他失误了,我说现在你有工作了,我们不就能成婚了吗,他说他不愿想持久的事,短期的事就是移民,先把自己的事儿弄好再说。他还是会经常联系我,但我已经不答复了。经常想起来,还是会感觉难熬,感觉再也找不到他这样的了,大概家庭条件比他好的了,可是我晓得我这个状态很差池,我感觉自己很像个Loser,但我不晓得怎样走出来,请你帮帮我。

——迟迟

幸知答复

颠仆了不愿爬起,不应是我们人生的姿势

亲爱的迟迟:

我们这辈子,有着很长很长的感情线,这条感情线陪伴终生。只要在每一段失利中爬起来,抱着屡败屡战的心态,才不会成为永久的Loser。颠仆了,心甘情愿地在那边窝着抽泣,不应当是我们人生的姿势。

可是我们女孩子,经常是那末固执而又倔强,一定要对方拿出让人佩服的分手的来由,才能让自己完全死了这条心,每一次分手城市感觉,今后不能再爱了,不能再碰到那末好的汉子了。心底总有个声音在说:“他还是爱我的,哪怕还有一点点,究竟,我们已经有那末相爱的曩昔啊。只要我在原地期待,只要我对峙下去,他会不会回过甚来声泪俱下,像当初一样爱我。能否是再忍一忍,我就能守得云开见月明?我给了那末多的爱,那末多年的爱,他现在这样好了,我却落得一无所获,我不宁愿。”

而究竟上,几近一切女性的豪情履历都在证实,强扭的瓜是不甜的,需要乞求得来的豪情,只是临时的火星,不能燎原。这样的苦守,只是掩耳盗铃,哪怕真有了婚姻,不幸的仍然是自己。

你是个出格善良的女孩子,却从小缺爱。母亲是爱你的,却走得太早。为了钱,你与没有血缘关系的父亲四分五裂。潜认识里,你不竭希望找到一个真正爱自己的汉子,一个不出轨的汉子,一个不由于钱而与自己匹敌的汉子,固然倘使有一个如母亲般待你的婆婆,那是再好不外。你爱上他的最初,一切都合适你对一个完善家庭的联想。

可是,你碰到了一个不愿承当义务的汉子。况且,你们还是异国恋。虽然美国和加拿大并不算太悠远。你们成婚这件事,需要父亲介入去压服的时辰,已经变了味道。我晓得你父亲善良,可哪怕是最温婉的聊天,城市让你男友感觉这是一种心理上的逼婚。所以,幸知在这里也想告诉天底下一切女孩子的怙恃们,豪情一定要天真烂漫瓜熟蒂落。否则即使成婚,也会让对方滋生心理上的排挤。

而婆婆,毕竟是婆婆,并不是你的亲生母亲。

我相信一路头拥抱你的婆婆,是至心爱好你的。只是一切婆婆都一样,一定是左袒自己的儿子在先。

钱在你的生命里不竭承当着一个很重要的脚色,你很垂青它,你感觉,钱最少代表着友谊,你可以把挣到的钱,一半花费在他家人身上,说明你很垂青他们。可是一个富有家庭,最不缺的就是钱啊。婆婆高低端详你、跟你父亲说你穿着随意时,实在已经起头挑剔你了。你们的交往已经存在压力,你不菲的置装费,奉迎不了她。她若真是爱好你,尽可以带你去商场挑选心仪的衣服,身为婆婆此举并不外分。婆媳相处,可以尊重相互,但假如不时需要端着,需要像见客户上谈判场一样去碰头,这样的生分,必定了你们没有未来。

还是拿“压服成婚”这事来说,不管你父亲是采用何等委婉的表达方式,你男友究竟是生气了,找到母亲打骂来获得他妈的认同。在中国的社会风气下,女方“逼婚”之举,一定不明智。特别是在经济上富足的男方,常常感觉,既然女方自降身段了,那末最少拖一拖,树一树威风,由因而男方在挑你,你是你的侥幸。别忘了,他对你的好感,不竭鄙人降。

他母亲和他一路,把你看成备胎。哪有准婆婆和媳妇儿说成婚没啥意义的?除非她没想挑选你。

他一次一次摆荡你的决心,由于他既不想落空你,又不想对你负责。各类欺骗,只要不领证,什么都好说。“领证了我们还是分隔的,假如出了什么题目,越发麻烦'说这句话的汉子,还有什么可迷恋的呢?

你用分手作为威胁来获得他的重视,第一次、第二次,他重视了,第三次,他就烦了。因而,他起头躲你。

实在分析完了,你就大白了。咱不要拧巴的豪情。长痛不如短痛嘛!即使你真的感觉再也找不到那末好的汉子了——“那末好”只是已经啊,现在的你已经落空了他。更况且,要对自己有信心嘛,该放弃的时辰一定要学会放弃,有舍才有得。

你是个聪明的女孩,记得向前看,不要就此落空对豪情和婚姻的信心。

——你的私人感情医生 幸知

幸知点评

很多时辰,跳出来,放言高论。困在局中,常常如坐井观天,感觉人生和豪情,就是狭窄一隅。勇敢破局,对女孩子来说,尤其重要。





幸知后援团

麦芽糖:弱弱地说一句,迟迟究竟是爱好人家的硬件还是至心爱好这小我呢?感受她就像是小孩子过家家,一点都不成熟。可是,我也相信,碰到这些题目标时辰,心里偶然辰真的就感觉再也不会碰到这样好的人,就是爱痛了爱伤了。不外,一个女孩子假如充足优异,也会吸引很多优异的人。不晓得其他姐妹们怎样看,我感觉一个汉子不管家庭条件若何优异,可是对自己欠好,那些物资上的工具跟自己半毛钱关系都没有。再说了,公婆家都那末厌弃,即使嫁曩昔也欠好过。女孩子都希望找个优异的家庭嫁曩昔,可是有些时辰太高了,又够不着。有一句话叫什么来着,挤不进去的圏子,就别往里走,为难了他人,作践了自己。还是分手好,随着这么没义务心又不定性的汉子,过日子也不会好。

小茶:单亲家庭给了迟迟很多心理上的影响,而她男友的家庭布景也给她带来了隐形的压力。我想之所以有分手后的不舍和对男友出轨的谅解,也是由于在一路不轻易(家庭布景、配合出国肄业、分隔的忖量、圈外人的介入)。

明知这样一定好,可是照旧驰念,这也是一般的,由于一下没法忘记那末多的爱恨。不外从现实的角度来说,分隔为好。一段好的豪情与姻缘,相互在一路会是高兴的,而不是困扰和疾苦。


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Before going abroad, before was being known male friend, rich home children, because special take care of me, will tell to me very special go to their home, the family member laughs to me ah breathe out. He goes to Canada, I go to the United States, face before going abroad, a period of time has been lived in in him, his mom helps me prepare baggage, there still am me to cry before be being faced, my heart beats very quickly at that time, I think, I perhaps was to find a good mother-in-law, she gives me mom's sense.

In going abroad two years, produced a lot of jobs. He can see me to the United States, I also can go to Canada looking for him, time grew, I want to come down surely, say conjugal thing constantly, he presses muscularity, say be perturbed, part company. Result, the following day him from Wengehua the same night looks for me by air. After meeting, he says to me, we marry, I feel to await good happiness in those days. Arrived the following day municipal hall, look at the new personality of come and go, he gave the sweat of a suit, look at me to say, we still consider to fall again. I kept back tear, agreed. Gave the door of municipal hall, I cry nobody appearance.

More theatricalized thing happening, turn day morning, I take his mobile phone to play, there is people hair in the short message that sees him accidentally " wife, I am in san Francisco is very good, here is very amused " , or " wife good night " of and so on.

I am interrogatory who is he, he begins not to admit, be being taken by me later the mobile phone asks, he says, namely temporarily dull, look for a friend. I am mad that day the school that develops me euqally, find my cousin (my cousin and my school, different major) say this thing, cousin is special wise and farsighted and straight from the shoulder person, she says to me: "You two part company, sooner or later thing, if you are overcome tonight his beg, so go back, this thing is met after recurrent. This thing is met after recurrent..

That day, he is ceaseless beg I, menace says work not know clearly, I am wanting to did not produce an impact after all, calculated. The result went the guesthouse that he stays in, that one in the evening, I did not go into.

After he answered Canada, I begin to check this female, look for her to chat with faceless identity, ability discovery, he answered Canada they still have connection, I save all chatting records come down, with respect to such gas quiver ground and she chatted a lot of days. Eventually one day, I couldn't help, issue him chatting record. He all sorts of phone offensive, say to buy an IPad to regard as to me the gift that make an apology, the money that says this was to be put for ages (a month gives his Mom his 400 dollars living cost only) . I do not know to excuse also can become inertial, resemble off the rails and same, I excused him again.

But, in a year of after this, every time he sees me to san Francisco, I can discover the trace that he and that schoolgirl chats, it is midnight occasionally even, we are asleep, her information came. He can make up a lot of lie, saying is not her. For the last time, my bright says, she does not have me to I do not have her, he ability cutout that schoolgirl. Cutout after her, I paid close attention to her small gain secretly, she gave birth to a child later in a few months, I am computative, if he sees what she perhaps produced at that time, that before me male friend, looked after children possibly to the family it seems that. For this thing, I often acid he, do not know he is done why impressions, it is to had escaped to rob, or what is other?

After I go back to the motherland, he and his family ran

Later, I went back to the motherland first. After going back to the motherland one year, the colleague all round me married basically, a lot of people ask me I am very irritated also, I say me male friend is in Canada, they ask why we are together.

I go back to the motherland at that time the reason has 2: It is I cannot find proper job in the United States, this domestic work is me the best company that this major can take, so I think; 2 it is me before feeling at that time, male friend also is met one day sooner or later come back, because I feel he is in that way rich domestic children, won't try hard to apply for a job.

The likelihood is in my eye, money is very serious to me, the money that I make in American exercitation, the half asks he and me to go to the United States travelling, half flower is in to him family buys a gift. Come back from the United States, the filar towel that I bought a fill an office love a horse to his mom (I feel actually very duty, but the intention that can represent me) , his Mom is taken looked, put over to say: "My money this towel gives otherwise you. " I listen to a heart at that time in particularly strange, do not know to say what is good, say: "Need not aunt, if my mom is in, I also can buy this to her, it is good that you close. " I always also am wondering, holding that aunt that I cry in the arms at that time, after why going back to the motherland in me, be opposite I am so chill, sensory unlike a person, I did not know what to produce, it is good to his mom that I know to want only, it is good to him.

Before going back to the motherland, father lets me buy bit of good clothes. I say why, he says to phone his Mom again, ask me with them connection is done not have recently, his Mom says, next take advantage of an opportunity and my pa talked about a few, what pair of my move outfit show fully between utterance is dissatisfactory, it is informal to feel I wear the dress, careless, used even " broken " this word. My pa feels to do not have face very much, say with me, allow my thing of many try to win sb's favor, go to his home seeing his Mom, cannot lose face. Anyhow, go seeing his Mom every time, I feel psychological pressure is very great, buy outfit cost is very high, I do not know to want what to buy to oneself, his Mom just feels I am worn not tatteredly. Go every time, also be to be fluctuated to look up and down, uncomfortable really, see her so later rarely.

Last year in Feburary, he goes back to the motherland spend the New Year, my cousin also goes back to the motherland marry, see bridal occasion, I am touched so that shed tear all the time. Banquet ended that day, I answer another city to go to work, my family member looks for him to talk about our thing, because feel all children in the home married, if right word, everybody can sit together to decide my its it may not be a bad idea, unapt also let me hanging all the time in the heart. The family member is stemmed from well-intentioned, but he quarrels greatly because of this thing and his Mom one, say aggressive of my family member, talking resembling negotiation is same, he asks him Mom can let us marry, his Mom says to have worked to marry again, anxious what, do not agree namely as a result anyway. I am returned at that time and family member fall out, feel to be in without me, they do this thing too passed, but family member very for me anxious, feel I and he is together so old, attitude of parents of the other side is apparent nowadays, only I look not to come out, be afraid of delay me lifelong. His mom still looked for an opportunity to say this thing designedly, say to marry not anxious, the sense that talks about love is quite good, say to marry meaning of it doesn't matter, imagine so goodly without me. This thing resembles hanging the sword on my heart euqally all the time, everyday my thought is very serious, is the feeling that feels I am former bad? I feel to visit his pa Mom every time, mood of his pa Mom is quite good, why can you be such?

The truth always injures a person, how should I go?

May, I put forward to part company, the reason is I feel to do not have safe feeling too, do not want to wait all the time, but he persuades me all the time, say fast, still run back to a country to see me secretly because of this thing, I also touched, the heart thinks then I am borne again. September, his grandma died, he comes back change of his grandfather grandma is graveyard. Will make a brand same like that in September, because he graduated, obtained working visa of 3 years, if taking this visa to apply for a job all the time, do not come back, I am about to waiting for him all the time, when is I do not know build. He and I say, the job cannot want to come back later, I say then we got card this. He says what the sense that gets card depends on, get card of we or departure, if gave what issue, more troublesome. I listen urgent, I feel he is pulling me all the time namely, I lie between 3 fork later 5 carry part company, hope he can take me seriously. He probably irritated also, did not want to fool. After he comes back, did not pass a few days to go native place change became graveyard. I catch a cold at that time have a fever, voice fester is very afflictive, one do not go out, how didn't he care me, he says to signal is done not have on native place hill, have a meal with kin in the evening drink can make a telephone call to me pretty good. My state of mind at that time is: Our different ground loves 3 years, in the day that you are absent, have a fever cold myself is being carried, in the day that you are in, be in obviously home, a few cannot also say if caring? I break out again, since,say with him such, that does not have me in the heart namely, do not look for excuse, cent. He says again, those a few days are not contacted. I call to his Mom, post a letter ceases, nobody receives nobody to answer. The result crossed him a few days to come back to say his natural environment to refuse to obey, have loose bowels of what. I make an appointment with him to go out to talk, he and I say to want to say to part company again, I say I want to know the fact, I do not believe you say working thing is so important all the time, the student that more or less didn't work can marry, more what is more,the rather that our situation is so special, do not marry how to come down surely, he says his pa Mom from at the beginning, to different now idea we are together, his pa Mom does not like me, feel I am bad to look, disposition is stubborn, etc. Anyhow says, I listen particularly to break down. The truth injures a person really.

Forgot what thing later, after he answers Canada, we were troubled by again, parted company really. That paragraph of time I am particularly afflictive, with respect to the thing that feels whole to part company, it is myself is made come, apply for a job after him very successful, the job changes better more, I get hard at that time the utmost, if can be borne at that time,the heart thinks, can wait a moment again, he also has the job, we can marry. I am really once afflictive, go to Canada looking for him with respect to determination, went to Canada, he said to rain, did not go out. such, I was rejected by so hard raw uncultivated land. Feeling of a few years, ended so. I call to him later ask him, he says is his error that, I say you have the job now, can we marry, he says he does not wish to consider long-term issue, short-term thing emigrates namely, say oneself thing do well again first. He or meeting contact me constantly, but I had not replied. Think constantly, still can feel afflictive, feel to also cannot find him again such, or domestic condition is better than him, but I know me this condition is very abnormal, I feel oneself very resemble a Loser, but I do not know how to go, ask you to help me.

-- tardy

Favour realizes a return

Fell do not wish to climb, should not be the attitude of our life

Dear tardy:

We this all one's life, having very long very long affection line, this affection line is accompanied all one's life. Climb in each paragraphs of failure only, holding in the arms be defeated repeatedly repeatedly the state of mind of battle, ability won't become forever Loser. Fell, ground of be most willing to is over there the nest is worn cry, should not be the attitude of our life.

Can be our girl, often so obdurate and stubborn, must the part company ground that the other side takes be convinced of person of sell one's own things, ability makes him thoroughly dead this heart, every time parts company can feel, cannot love again from now on, cannot encounter so good man again. The bottom of the heart always has a voice saying: "He still loves me, even if still have little, after all, we once had so the past that love each other ah. Want me to await in place only, want me to hold on only, he can have turned round to weep bitterly, resemble loving me euqally at the outset. Bear again, can be I defended so that the cloud leaves see a month bright? I gave so much love, so old love, he is so good now, I am gotten however do not have earning, my not reconciled to. My not reconciled to..

And in fact, the emotional experience of almost all female is proving, the melon that twists by force is not sweet, need beg gets the love that come, it is temporary spark only, cannot set the prairie ablaze. Such standing fast, just deceive oneself as well as others, even if had marriage really, unfortunate still is him.

You are a particularly kind-hearted girl, be short of love as a child however. The mother loves you, go too early however. For money, you and the father fall to pieces that do not have kin. Subconscious in, you hope to find a man that loves your truly all the time, a not off the rails man, not because of money with him opposed man, if have,wait for your mother-in-law like the mother of course, that is again good nevertheless. What you fall in love with him is original, everything accords with your daydream to a perfect family.

But, you encountered a man that does not wish to assume responsibility. What is more,the rather that, you are exotic still love. Although the United States is mixed,Canada does not calculate too distant. You marry this thing, need father intervenes when persuade, had changed to taste. I know your father is kind-hearted, but even if be most of Wen Wan chat, can make you male friend feels this is a kind of mentally force marriage. So, favour knows to also want to tell in the world the father and mother of all girls here, love must arrange its nature success will come when conditions are ripe. Otherwise although marry, what also can let the other side cause mentally is repellent.

And mother-in-law, it is a mother-in-law after all, not be your one's own mother.

I believe to embrace your mother-in-law at the beginning, like you sincerely. Just all mother-in-laws are same, it is partial certainly oneself son is prevenient.

Money is assuming a very important role all the time in your life, you value it very much, you feel, money is representing friendly feelings at least, you can the money that makes, half expenditure is on his family body, explain you value them very much. But one is full of a family, what be short of least of all is money. The mother-in-law looks you up and down up and down, when it is informal to say with your father you are being worn, had begun to nag actually you. Your association has been put in pressure, the buy that you do not poor holds cost, cannot please her. If she likes you really, go in order to take you market chooses the clothes that admire in the heart, divide nevertheless as mother-in-law this action. Wife and mother gets along, can respect each other, but if need to be being carried constantly, need resembles seeing meet like field of the negotiation on the client, such unripe cent, was destined you do not have future.

Still take " persuade marry " for this thing, how does no matter your father is to use,sweat and agreeable express kind, you male friend is angry after all, find a mother to quarrel will obtain fuck self-identity. Below Chinese social conduct, the woman " force marriage " lift, scarcely is advisable. Be in especially economically rich man, often feel, since the woman falls oneself figure, so procrastinate at least, the tree is awe-inspiring, because be the man,carrying you, you are your honor. Did not forget, his good impression to you, reducing all the time.

His mother and he is one case, regard you as spare wheel. Which have accurate mother-in-law and wife to say those who do not have what meaning to marry? Unless she did not think,choose you.

He shakes your determination, because of him both neither wants to lose you, do not want to be in charge of to you again. All sorts of deceit, want not to get card only, what is good say. "Get card of we or departure, if gave what issue, more troublesome ' says the man of this word, what what can be reluctant to leave to still have?

You are used part company as coerce those who will get him to take seriously, first time, the 2nd, he took seriously, the 3rd, he is irritated. Then, he begins to hide you.

Actually the analysis was over, you understood. We am not twisted cling to love. Long painful as short painful! Although you felt to also cannot find so good man again really -- " so good " just once ah, present you had lost him. More what is more,the rather that, should have hope to oneself, when should abandoning, must learn to abandon, have abandon ability to have.

You are a clever girl, remember looking ahead, do not lose the confidence of pair of love and marriage at this point.

-- favour of your personal feeling doctor knows

Favour knows to comment on

A lot of moment, jump out, unrestrained and far -ranging. It is tired in the bureau, often be like have a very narrow view, feel life and love, it is narrow corner. Defeat bravely bureau, to the girl, particularly important.





Favour tells backup force round

Maltose: Say losingly infirmly, be after all tardy like the family's hardware or like this individual sincerely? Feeling she resembles is dot play house, immature. But, I also believe, when encountering these problems, feel to also won't encounter so nice person again really occasionally in the heart, love namely painful love. Nevertheless, if a girl is enough outstanding, also can draw a lot of outstanding people. Do not know how other brothers and sisterses look, I feel a man does not steward front courtyard condition how outstanding, but bad to oneself, the thing of those materially follows him concern of half wool money is done not have. Said again, home of husband's father and mother so cold-shoulder, although marry uneasy also in the past. The girl hopes to look for an outstanding family to marry, but some time are too high, do not wear quite again. What a word calls to coming, squeeze the that does not go in child, do not go to in go, embarrassed others, humiliate oneself. Still had parted company, do not have responsibility heart so accordingly the man of inconstancy, get along also won't good.

Small tea: Front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage gave tardy the influence of a lot of mentally, and she the domestic background of male friend also brought invisible pressure to her. I want to have after parting company be not abandoned and to male friend is excused off the railsly, because not allow together,also be easy (of domestic background, joint study going abroad, apart longing, a third party intervene) .

It is good to know perfectly well such may nots, but be missed as before, this also is normal, cannot forget so much love hate because of. Do not have friendly intercourse for realistic point of view, apart had better. A paragraph of good love and the fate brings lovers together, each other can be happy together, is not worry and anguish.
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