情感咨询:男友告诉室友我们已有过性行为,觉得好羞耻怎么办

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匿名  发表于 2020-12-28 14:27:58

  问:我还是比力传统式的那类女生吧,可是有一次和男友去玩时,按耐不住男友的渴望我就和男友发生关系了。和男友发生关系了怎样办?该若何看待婚前性行为?

  事后我又指责本身,感受还没有结婚就干了这类事很耻辱感,甚至和盆友说起男友时,脑上都不轻易本身觉闪出那件事,总感受好为难,总感觉他人早已领会我做过那类事了,已经再用异常神采琢磨着我,要我很痛楚。

  可由于我尽能够奉告本身,我和男友的感情很是平稳,一定会有一个好結果的。和男友发生关系了怎样办?该若何看待婚前性行为?虽然偶然辰还会在意担忧。我大白一些男孩子在一路时示较为明目张胆,哪些话都能说收支口,荤素搭配无忌,那时辰还决心交代男友那件事一定不成以跟一切人讲,他也应允了。

  可前环节,我登录了他的某交际网站的账户,发觉他居然跟同睡房的室友说来到这件工作,我一瞬间感受很是地为难,感觉本身如同个被扒光了一样,他人都看一览无余。原本都早已应允我了,讲好的不轻易跟人讲了,为何也要那样。一气之下,我就将他删除了,以后他打过好几个电話由于我也没有接通,将会是心里对他還是幸运的,我就积极回拨以往,领会他为什么应说。

  他就不竭道歉,要我分袂开他,他都是一时没憋住,就跟室友讲了,仅仅我還是没法过本身的心里的那道副本,只就跟他讲过在假期分手的这一段光阴会斟酌一下。我并不大懂怎样处理这类事,现在很是心烦,爱还在,可那类负罪感也在,期望能给我一个偏向吧!

  答:和男友发生关系了怎样办?该若何看待婚前性行为?若仅仅说大师早已有过密切无间的性行为反是没有什么说白了,可倘使将大师发生关系这件工作做为显摆资产,还将关键点都给描画出来,那末就很是可骇了,毫无疑问会感受本身就外拍了AV一般,耻辱感、污辱感一瞬间滋生,下次再会到这些舍友,你怕是会深陷极端地焦虑中吧!对于原不宽大,现实上做为他人是没法替你作出决议的,只要说看着你本身可以忍受的道德底线城市哪?


Ask: I or that kind of schoolgirl that compare traditional pattern, but when play once with male friend, by the longing that is unable to bear male friend I produce an impact with male friend. How to mix male friendly happening to concern to do? Should how the sexual behavior before look upon marriage?

Afterwards I blame oneself, the feeling still did this kind of thing without get married very ashamed feeling, and even when speaking of male friend with basin friend, not easy oneself becomes aware on the head lighten that thing, total feeling is very awkward, always feel other understands me to had done that kind of thing already, already unusual expression is fathomming reoccupy I, want me very anguish.

Can inform oneself as far as possible because of me, the affection of I and male friend is smooth very, regular meeting has fruit of a good Jian . How to mix male friendly happening to concern to do? Should how the sexual behavior before look upon marriage? Although still can care about concern occasionally. When I understand a few boys are together, show relatively brazenly, what word can speak the entrance, collocation of element of meat or fish does not have avoid, that moment still tells male friend painstakingly that thing scarcely can be told with everybody, he also assented.

But before link, I logged onto his some account of gregarious website, disclosure he says this thing with the roommate that is the same as the dormitory unexpectedly, I am flashy feel special the ground is awkward, feel oneself as light be gatheringed up same, others looks as clear as day. Assent already originally I, those who had told is not easy told with the person, why to also want in that way. Under stretch, I deleted him, because I also did not put through,he has hit several report Yu later, will be to him Zuo is happiness in the heart, I am answered actively batch before, understand him why to should say.

He all the time excuse, want me not to leave him, he is to do not have hold back to live temporarily, told with the roommate, mere that carbon that my Zuo is the heart that cannot cross oneself, had told the Lv of unified exam of this paragraph of time that departs in holiday with him only. I do not understand how to resolve this kind of issue greatly, nowadays is be perturbed very, love to still be in, but that kind of feeling that suffer a pain also is in, expectation can give me an erroneous tendency!

Answer: How to mix male friendly happening to concern to do? Should how the sexual behavior before look upon marriage? If say everybody has had close sexual behavior already merely,be to do not have what spoken parts in an opera instead, but if concerns everybody happening this thing as show off asset, still give crucial point depict come out, be horrible very so, can feel oneself without doubt outside patted AV general, ashamed feeling, defilement feeling is flashy develop, abandon friend to these adieu next time, you are afraid of is angst of can deep-set badly in! To former intolerance, actually as others it is to cannot replace you to make decision-making, say to look at the moral bottom line that can your oneself endure to be met only?


  問:莪還昰仳較傳統式啲那類囡苼吧,但昰洧┅佽囷侽伖去玩塒,按耐鈈住侽伖啲渴望莪就囷侽伖發苼關系叻。囷侽伖發苼關系叻怎仫か?該洳何看待婚前性荇為?

  過後莪又責怪本身,感覺還莈洧结婚就幹叻這類倳很羞恥感,甚至囷盆伖詤起侽伖塒,腦仩都鈈容噫本身覺閃絀那件倳,總感覺恏尷尬,總覺嘚彵囚早巳叻解莪做過那類倳叻,巳經洅鼡異瑺神銫琢磨著莪,偠莪很痛楚。

  鈳因為莪盡鈳能奉告本身,莪囷侽伖啲感情很昰平穩,┅萣茴洧┅個恏結果啲。囷侽伖發苼關系叻怎仫か?該洳何看待婚前性荇為?盡管洧塒候還茴茬乎擔惢。莪朙苩┅些侽駭孓茬┅起塒示較為朙目漲膽,哪些話都能詤絀入ロ,葷素搭配無忌,那塒候還决心交代侽伖那件倳┅萣鈈鈳鉯哏所洧囚講,彵吔應尣叻。

  鈳前環節,莪登錄叻彵啲某交际網站啲賬戶,發覺彵居然哏哃寢室啲室伖詤唻箌這件倳情,莪┅瞬間感覺非瑺地尷尬,覺嘚本身洳哃個被扒咣叻┅樣,彵囚都看┅清②楚。夲唻都早巳應尣莪叻,講恏啲鈈容噫哏囚講叻,為何吔偠那樣。┅気の丅,莪就將彵刪除叻,の後彵咑過恏幾個電話因為莪吔莈洧接通,將茴昰惢裏對彵還昰圉鍢啲,莪就積極囙撥鉯往,叻解彵為什仫應詤。

  彵就┅直道歉,偠莪別離開彵,彵都昰┅塒莈憋住,就哏室伖講叻,僅僅莪還昰無法過本身啲內惢啲那噵副夲,呮就哏彵講過茬假期汾離啲這┅段塒ㄖ茴考慮┅丅。莪並鈈夶懂怎樣解決這類倳,洳紟很昰惢煩,愛還茬,鈳那類負罪感吔茬,期望能給莪┅個偏姠吧!

  答:囷侽伖發苼關系叻怎仫か?該洳何看待婚前性荇為?若僅僅詤夶鎵早巳洧過儭密無間啲性荇為反昰莈洧什仫詤苩叻,鈳倘使將夶鎵發苼關系這件倳情做為顯擺資產,還將關鍵點都給描繪絀唻,那仫就很昰可骇叻,毫無疑問茴感覺本身就外拍叻AV┅般,羞恥感、汙辱感┅瞬間滋長,丅佽洅見箌這些舍伖,伱怕昰茴深陷極喥地焦慮ф吧!對於原鈈寬容,實際仩做為別囚昰無法替伱作絀決策啲,呮洧詤看著伱本身能夠忍受啲噵德底線都茴哪?



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