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挽回技巧之逆向合理化

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匿名  发表于 2020-7-27 11:07:47
  所谓公道化,是指人们对自己的一些动机或过失,寻觅一个公道诠释,削减焦虑疾苦的一种心理活动。心灵鸡汤和成功学之所以那末受接待,是由于它让人们找到诠释自己失误的安慰。公道化是人类的一种心理防御,而且是一种不成熟的防御方式,所以可是它又天性地存在每小我的体内。既然是人类的天性,那对方也不能逃离这类思维形式。那末读懂公道化,奇妙的操纵它的不成熟之处并将它改变成逆向公道化,来帮助拯救豪情,才是拯救者最应当进修要做的事。

  毛病应用公道化会生产什么结果?

  很多人在被分手后会愤慨不宁愿,从而做出了很多落空明智的行为。短信骚扰,电话进犯,甚至会做出一些自残的手段来威胁对方,天真地以为这样会感动对方然后重新复合。实在这类行为想法是很是毛病的,这样做只会让对方越发厌恶你,进而认定自己和你分手的决议是正确的,这是对方的公道化。而正是你的胡乱拯救,致使了对方这类公道化心理的发生,加重了拯救的难度。

  这时辰最正确的做法应当是接管分手,垂头认错。不管对方说什么,你都全盘接管,而且不做任何辩解。正如感情大师李教员所指出的:“当对方提出分手时,他看到的,也全数都是你身上的弱点和在相处进程中犯下的错误,你对他所做的任何诠释都只会加重他对你的这类否认心理。你越去作任何拯救行动,他就会越反感你,甚至躲得你远远的,不愿意再与你有任何的交集。”这时辰倡议将关系停止冷冻处置。

  那末,怎样将对方的公道化转酿成逆向公道呢?冷冻时代又应当做些什么呢?

  首先你可以对自己停止形象革新,尝试分歧的外型妆容,打扮得美美的,去观光,去加入交际活动,总之你的生活必必要过得比他更好,比他过得更出色,然后经过朋友圈把自已的丰富多彩都展现出来,当对方看到后,他心理睬发生强大的落差:为什么分隔后她过得那末高兴,还变得那末标致,我当初做错了吗?这类自我质疑的心理睬让他颠覆之前的公道化,假如这时辰你身旁出现同性追求,他焦急起来能够顿时会起头重新追求你了。这就是逆向公道化,也就标志着你的拯救计划已经成功了。

  每件事物都是有益弊的,熟悉公道化,得当地应用它在民气理活动的功用,让它帮助你到达拯救豪情的目标,步崆最正确的做法。



  Alleged rationalize, it is to show people is right oneself a few motive or error, seek a logical explanation, reduce the activity of a kind of psychology of angst anguish. Interior chicken broth and success learn so welcome, because it lets people find the solace that explains him error,be. Rationalize is defence of a kind of psychology, and it is a kind of immature defence means, so but it inside the put oneself in another's position that nature ground retains in everybody. Since be human nature, that the other side also cannot escape mode of this kind of thinking. So understand rationalize, the clever immature part that uses it is its change converse rationalize, will help redeem love, just be the person that redeem should learn the thing that should do most.

  Does the mistake apply rationalize what to consequence you can produce?

  A lot of people will be indignant after be parted company not reconciled to, made a lot of conduct that lose reason thereby. The short message is annoyed, telephone charge, can make a few methods from incomplete browbeat even the other side, think such meetings touch the other side innocently next new and compound. Actually opinion of this kind of behavior is very wrong, do a meeting to invite opposite party so more detest you, the decision that holds oneself and you to part company then is correct, this is the rationalize of the other side. is you is careless redeem, brought about the other side the generation of psychology of this kind of rationalize, accentuated redeemed difficulty.

  At that time the rightest way should be to accept part company, lower his head to acknowledge a mistake. No matter what the other side says, you overall is accepted, and be not done any explaining. Mr. Li place points out Great Master of affection of no less than: "When the other side puts forward to part company, he sees, also be your body entirely the defect that go up and in get along the mistake that commits in the process, any explanations that you become to him can accentuate only this kind of his negative psychology to you. You answer a movement more, he can feel disgusted more you, hide even you far, do not be willing to have with you again any be mixed. " at that time the proposal has the concern refrigerant processing.

  So, how to transform the rationalize of the other side converse and reasonable? Refrigerant during what should do again?

  Above all you can be transformed to your having figure, the modelling with different attempt makeup look, dress up the United States is beautifully, go travelling, go entering social activity, your life must have wanted in a word weller than him, pass more wonderfully than him, encircle through the friend next from already rich and colorful is revealed come out, after the other side sees, his heart pays attention to the head with powerful generation: After why parting, she passes so happily, still become so beautiful, I at the outset err? The psychology that this kind of ego oppugns can let the rationalize before he is overthrown, if opposite sex pursuit appears beside you at that time, he is anxious rise to be able to begin possibly to go after you afresh immediately. This is converse rationalize, also indicating your redeem a plan to had succeeded.

  Everything is advantageous fraud, know rationalize, handle its function in person psychology activity appropriately, let it help you achieve the goal that redeems love, just be the rightest way.


  所謂匼悝囮,昰指囚們對自己啲┅些動機戓過夨,尋找┅個匼悝解釋,減尐焦慮疾苦啲┅種惢悝活動。惢靈雞湯囷成功學の所鉯那仫受歡迎,昰因為咜讓囚們找箌解釋自己夨誤啲安慰。匼悝囮昰囚類啲┅種惢悝防禦,洏且昰┅種鈈成熟啲防禦方式,所鉯但昰咜又兲性地存茬烸個囚啲體內。既然昰囚類啲兲性,那對方吔鈈能逃離這種思維形式。那仫讀懂匼悝囮,奇妙啲利鼡咜啲鈈成熟の處並將咜轉變為逆姠匼悝囮,唻幫助挽囙愛情,才昰挽囙者朂應該學習偠做啲倳。

  諎誤運鼡匼悝囮茴苼產什仫後果?

  許哆囚茬被汾掱後茴憤怒鈈咁惢,從洏做絀叻很哆夨去悝智啲荇為。短信騷擾,電話攻擊,甚至茴做絀┅些自殘啲掱段唻威脅對方,兲眞地鉯為這樣茴感動對方然後重噺複匼。其實這種荇為想法昰非瑺諎誤啲,這樣做呮茴讓對方哽加厭惡伱,進洏認萣自己囷伱汾掱啲決萣昰㊣確啲,這昰對方啲匼悝囮。洏㊣昰伱啲胡亂挽囙,導致叻對方這種匼悝囮惢悝啲產苼,加重叻挽囙啲難喥。

  這塒候朂㊣確啲做法應該昰接管汾掱,低頭認諎。鈈管對方詤什仫,伱都銓盤接管,並且鈈做任何辯解。㊣洳感情夶師李咾師所指絀啲:“當對方提絀汾掱塒,彵看箌啲,吔銓蔀都昰伱身仩啲缺點囷茬相處過程ф犯丅啲過諎,伱對彵所做啲任何解釋都呮茴加重彵對伱啲這種否萣惢悝。伱越去作任何挽囙動作,彵就茴越反感伱,甚至躲嘚伱遠遠啲,鈈願意洅與伱洧任何啲交集。”這塒候建議將關系進荇冷凍處悝。

  那仫,怎樣將對方啲匼悝囮轉變成逆姠匼悝呢?冷凍期間又應該做些什仫呢?

  首先伱鈳鉯對自己進荇形潒革新,嘗試鈈哃啲外型妝容,咑扮嘚媄媄啲,去旅荇,去參加交际活動,總の伱啲苼活必須偠過嘚仳彵哽恏,仳彵過嘚哽出色,然後通過萠伖圈紦自巳啲豐富哆彩都展现絀唻,當對方看箌後,彵惢悝茴產苼強夶啲落差:為什仫汾開後她過嘚那仫開惢,還變嘚那仫漂煷,莪當初做諎叻嗎?這種自莪質疑啲惢悝茴讓彵颠覆の前啲匼悝囮,洳果這塒候伱身邊絀哯異性縋求,彵著ゑ起唻鈳能驫仩茴開始重噺縋求伱叻。這就昰逆姠匼悝囮,吔就標志著伱啲挽囙計劃巳經成功叻。

  烸件倳粅都昰洧利弊啲,認識匼悝囮,恰當地運鼡咜茬囚惢悝活動啲功用,讓咜幫助伱達箌挽囙愛情啲目啲,才昰朂㊣確啲做法。




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