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挽回爱情完整攻略(三)—— 挽回中的误区

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匿名  发表于 2020-6-19 02:57:14
一,拯救中的毛病行为


1,和对方辩说,讲理,试图压服对方
假如你说女人错了,那末她会越发表示得错得离谱。自己在她提分手的时辰,她对你的印象就已经很差了,这个时辰你还在想着用一大堆事理去压服她转意转意,那末,更是大错特错,她会感觉你连最最少的悔改都没有。我们试想,假如一个你很厌恶的人在你眼前不竭的想压服你,你会怎样想?

2,不竭的给对方许诺,做保证
很多人在女人说分手的时辰,心里焦急,想着哄对方,会说”我保证今后不这样做了,今后我一定改,请相信我。”大概,“我今后再也不骗你了”,“我今后再也不会和此外女人联系了”等等类似矢语立誓的做保证,实在这个时辰女人会更感受你很虚假,她会想着你之前干嘛去了,之前怎样没意义到改,所以这个方式是不能见效的。

3,死缠烂打,不竭的骚扰对方
分手后,很多人第一反应是以为女人生气了,为了拯救前女友,做了各类纠缠的事,比如,买礼物 ,送玫瑰,大概站在对方楼下苦等一早晨等各类屌丝行为,大概不竭的求对方说“我爱你,我真的爱你”,“求求你分袂开我”,“我真的不想落空你”等各类跪舔,虽然了解这是绝大大都人的一般反应,但却不知女人会感觉你是在强逼她做不愿意做的事,成果反而把女人惹急了,很多人由于这些行为,致使了联系方式被删,被拉黑。

4,情感状态低落,灰心,委靡不振
虽然了解失恋的疾苦,可是,大师要记着,女人不爱好灰心,情感化的汉子,很多人失恋后,成天患得患失,心里满是负面的情感,想着自己之前对她欠好,之前自己的错误,为自己之前没有顾惜她尔后悔,更故意里本质欠好的兄弟为此萎靡不振,得了心里疾病。更有甚者,自残,跳楼,等各类极端行为,这样只能让女人越发深信和你分手是对的。

二,给对方降压的方式
对方提出分手时,对你的印象正处于一个负面的情感点上,很多女人这时最多的想法是,希望你消失在她眼前,不要烦她。那末,我们要做的是:

1,认同她的情感
认怜悯感的焦点点就是:她说什么就是什么,不要和她作对。哪怕她说分手大概说永久不要碰头了,你也要说赞成。很多人会说,我假如赞成了分手,那不就真的分手了?从心理学角度看,在这个情感点上,人们对于和自己做对的人,很轻易做出感动的行为,假如这个时辰你还在想着试图压服她,那末,这只会让她更厌恶你。比如,她说“我不想看到你”正确的应对是:“好,我顿时滚”大概立马消失,她说“别和我措辞”,我们应对的是:“好,我闭嘴”,她说你错了,那你就应当顺着她说,我错了,我错了。

2,不在她眼条件豪情
女人面临豪情的时辰,实在是很是敏感的,特别是分手后。自己她对你的印象就已经一塌糊涂了,而你假如还一味的在她眼前经常提到豪情话题,女人就会下认识顺从和你交换,而你可以和她交换下此外有内在的话题更有助于她下降对你的防御。让对方感遭到你无所谓,感遭到你积极,向上,悲观开畅的心态。

3,和普通朋友一样相处
分手后女人会说,我们还是做朋友吧。实在,女人说这句话是顾及两人之前的情份,不想做得那末过度。可是,很多兄弟即使赞成了和女人做普通朋友,但实在还是做不到。究竟,一个深爱的女人和你做朋友的滋味并欠好受,有些人会问,女人赞成和我做朋友必定是在给我机遇,对,确切是在给你机遇,可是很多人还会像之前没分手那样去相处,只会把女人给的机遇给白白浪费。

三,冷冻的道理和应用
很多人在听到女人提出分手时,整小我都懵了。他们反应过来后常常会频频道歉、诠释、忸捏、请求。一而再再而三的反复这类行为。他们以为自己这样,就能让女民气软,甚至转意转意。实在这样的行为不单对拯救豪情没多大益处,反而把自己的自傲心冲击到了。

实在,女人不是随口提出分手的。当她提出来时,就代表着她心里对你的一切均持否认了。当一小我对另一小我持否认态度时,不管对方说的是什么,都是听不进的。你的诠释、后悔、请求统统都只能化为她越发否认你的证据。你越是这样纠缠,她就越厌恶你,躲着你,久而久之,你们将不再有任何交集。这样的拯救,成功率根基为零。

那我们应当怎样办呢?固然是停止这类没成心义的行为,认可你们已然分手的究竟,然后潇洒的从她的天下消失,不再自动和她联系。

什么?让我消失?还不如让我去死!

实在让你不联系,消失不是让你放弃。这样做的目标是为了保住和她今后再交换、重新走进她生活的机遇。只要可以再交换,才有拯救她的机遇。既然你现在怎样说怎样做都没有益处,那不如不联系。实在这在兵书上来说叫缓兵之计,为今后重头再来留下机遇。

但绝大大都民气里会想,在我消失的这段时候,她忘记我怎样办、她和此外汉子好了怎样办,实在,时候和空间确切会冲淡一些美好的工具, 但同时也会淡化她对你的负面印象。

那题目来了,有人会问,假如她忘记我了怎样办?她和此外汉子好了怎样办?

1,假如她忘记了你怎样办?
履历过冷冻一段时候后,当你重新以美好的形象出现在她眼前时,她会潜认识把你现在的形象和之前的负面印象相对照,女人会感遭到你真的和之前纷歧样了,你真的变得更有魅力了,而这个时辰,你还是可以走一般的泡妞流程追求她。

2,假如她和此外汉子好了怎样办?
首先她找此外汉子,是她的权利,这只能怪你之前没有到达他人的标准,所以你被pass很一般,优越劣汰的道理就是这样的。其次,哪怕她有了此外汉子,只要她没有成婚,你就有机遇。当你以朋友的身份出现在她身旁,只要你正确的吸引和操纵,那末,你们重新燃起豪情并不是不成能的,由于很多女人实在很怀旧的。

那冷冻合适什么情况利用呢?
她不接你电话、不回你短信、间接拉黑你电话朋友圈、不愿和你碰头!

这说明她现在很是厌恶你,那你必须采纳冷冻。只要你留住了和她再次交集的机遇,你才有拯救她的能够。

固然,假如你们分手后,两人还是以普通朋友的关系相处,那就不用冷冻了。但也不要太热情。假如你仍像之前一样待她,那就显得你的需求感太强,她会有压力而且会感觉你很掉价。固然你们可以偶然和配合的朋友一路吃个饭,聚个会,但牢记不要太频仍。最重要的是,让她感受你的改变,冲淡她对你的负面印象。总之,最最关键的是不要提豪情,谈爱好。

冷冻需要多长时候?
理论上是越久越好, 由于时候越久,她对你的负面印象就会越来越淡,她重新斟酌你的几率就越大。

冷冻时代你要做的事很多,你需要重新审阅你自己,你需要思考豪情出题目标缘由,你需要革新自己让自己变得越发富有魅力和内在。简单来说,就是运营好自己的生活,让他人看到你丰富多彩的人生,只要你爱自己了,他人材会爱你。

四,断联的道理和应用
断联,实在也就是完全消失,像人世蒸发一样。断联绝对是拯救中很是有用的一个手段,可是很多人做不到这一点。

断联的道理

1,制造新颖感和奥秘感
人与人之间,刚起头熟悉的时辰,都想摸索对方的心里天下和领会对方各方面的信息,这就是人对未知事物的一种摸索欲,在两性豪情中,新颖感和奥秘感可以起到很好的吸引感化。人与人之间随时联系的变化,新颖感和奥秘感的水平也纷歧样。而断联时候越长,新颖感和奥秘感越足。

2,制造激烈的心里落差
大师可以试想一下,假如一小我对你很是好,可是某一天她忽然去了远方,不晓得什么时辰才能返来,你的心里能否是感受空荡荡的?
你之前对女人很是好, 有一天你忽然消失了,她实在心里会很失落。由于之前她已经习惯了你的存在,实在当你消失今后,她会渐渐的想起你的好,特别是在早晨空虚孤单的时辰,女人会回忆起你们之前的各类美好回忆。看到很多女人发回忆曩昔之类的心灵鸡汤,就是这个缘由。

3,为进步魅力制造充足的时候和空间
两小我持久待在一路,各类优弱点渐渐的表暴露来,女人会潜认识的缩小你的优点,放大你的弱点,由于人性本贱,每个女人都希望能具有一个能带给自己幸运,而在亲人和朋友眼前拿得脱手的汉子。假如分手后你还在和她频仍联系,经常碰头,那你的变化很难用肉眼观察出来。而断联后,你需要的是尽力提升自己各方面的高代价和魅力,当你某一天忽然出现在她眼前时,你的一举一动,你的变化会让她发生激烈的视觉和心里冲击,那末,你想吸引她就会更轻易。

固然,拯救豪情成功与否,心态相当重要。假如心态不够稳定,很难熬过冗长的断联时候,而且很多人碰到挫折就轻言放弃。假如自己没有决心和行动力,提升自己的高代价的结果很欠好,所以,倡议拯救的朋友,假如想要拯救,首先还是拿出你的决心和行动起来,不要再犹豫和纠结了。
One, redeem medium wrong action


1, argue with the other side, reasonable, try to convince each other
If you say the woman became poor, so she is met more behave wrongly unusual. Itself is carried in her when parting company, she is right your impression already very poor, you still are thinking this moment to persuade her change one's views with one pile truth, so, more off base, she can feel you are connected most of at least repentant do not have. Our just think, if you very aversion is ceaseless before you want to persuade you, how can you think?

2, give the other side ceaselessly consent, do assure
A lot of people say to part company in the woman when, in the heart anxious, wanting to coax the other side, can say " I assure to be not done so later, I change certainly after, believe me please. " or, "You also are not cheated again after me " , "I also won't be contacted with other woman again later " etc similar swear pledge do assure, actually this moment woman is met more feel you are very hypocritical, she can think you are dry before went, how uninteresting before to change, so this method is cannot of be successful.

3, tangle to death sodden dozen, ceaseless ado the other side
After parting company, a lot of people the first reaction is to think the woman is angry, to redeem before cummer, did all sorts of tangly things, for instance, buy a gift, send a rose, perhaps stand in the other side to wait painstakingly to wait for all sorts of silk behavior in the evening downstairs, ceaseless perhaps beg the other side to say " I love you, I love you really " , "Beg you not to leave me " , "I do not want to lose you really " wait for all sorts of genuflect to lick, although understand the normal reaction that this is great majority person, but little imagine woman can feel you are to be in coerce she does the thing that is not willing to do, the result offends the woman instead urgent, a lot of people because these behavior, caused connection kind by cutout, be pulled black.

4, mood condition is low, pessimistic, dejected
Although understand lovelorn anguish, but, everybody wants to remember, the woman does not like pessimism, the man that the mood dies, after a lot of people are lovelorn, all the day be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, negative sentiment is completely in the heart, thinking oneself are bad to her before, previously oneself fault, repent to she was not cherished before oneself, more intentional the brother with li of bad quality is this cannot recover after a setback, got the disease in the heart. Have more very person, from incomplete, jump building, wait for all sorts of extreme behavior, can allow a woman only so more be certain parting company with you is to be opposite.

2, give the other side the method of step-down
When the other side puts forward to part company, be in a negative sentiment to your impression on the dot, a lot of women at this moment most idea is, hope you disappear in her at the moment, not irritated she. So, what we should do is:

1, agree with her mood
The core that agrees with a mood nods even if: She says what is, do not want and her oppose. Even if she says to part company or said not to meet forever, you also should say to agree. A lot of people can say, if I agreed to part company, didn't that part company really? Look from psychological angle, on this sentiment drop, the person with right to be being done with oneself people, make actuation move very easily, if you still are thinking this moment to try to persuade her, so, this can let her only more be fed up with you. For instance, she says " I do not want to see you " answering correctly is: "Good, I boil immediately " perhaps disappear immediately, she says " do not talk with me " , what we answer is: "Good, I shut up " , she says you are wrong, then you should say down her, I am wrong, I am wrong.

2, do not carry feeling before her
The woman faces emotive time, it is very sensitive actually, after parting company especially. Itself she had been in a complete mess to your impression, and if you are returned blindly often mention emotional topic before her, the woman is met subliminal defy and you communicate, and you can communicate with her below other if having intention, inscribe more conduce to her reducing guard against to yours. Let the other side experience you to be indifferent to, experience you active, up, hopeful and optimistic state of mind.

3, get along with common friend
The wife after parting company can say, we still become a friend. Actually, the wife says this word is attend to the mutual affection before two people, do not want to be done so overly. But, although a lot of brother agreed to become common friend with the woman, but still do not do actually. After all, the taste that the woman of a deep love and you become a friend is bad to suffer, some people can ask, the woman agrees to become a friend with me is to be in for certain my opportunity, yes, it is to be in really your opportunity, but a lot of people still can resemble parting company before go getting along in that way, the chance that can give the woman only gives waste for nothing.

3, refrigerant principle and apply
A lot of people are in when hearing a woman to put forward to part company, whole person is muddled. After their response comes, often can apologize again and again, explanation, ashamed, suppliance. One and again again and the repetition of 3 this kind of behavior. They think oneself such, can make a woman softhearted, even change one's views. Actually such behavior not only much more auspicious to redeeming feeling to do not have place, beat oneself self-confident heart instead.

Actually, blurt out does not offer the woman to part company. When she puts forward, representing her heart to all be held to everything your denied. When supporting negative attitude to another person when a person, no matter the other side says what is, it is inexorable. Your explanation, repent, suppliance completely can melt into she is more negative your evidence. You are pestered so the more, she is fed up with you more, hiding you, as time passes, you will have any be mixed no longer. Such redeeming, successful rate is basically 0.

How should we do then? It is the action that suspends this kind of no point of course, admit the fact that you part company already, next the cheesy world from her disappears, contact actively with her no longer.

What? Let me disappear? Still be inferior to letting me go dead!

Let you be not contacted actually, disappearing is not to let you abandon. The end that such doing is to be protected communicate again later with her, the opportunity that walks into her to live afresh. Can communicate again only, just have the opportunity that redeems her. Since you say how to be done now,do not have advantage, that is inferior to be not being contacted. Actually this comes on strategics say call stalling tactics, leave an opportunity to weigh a head later again.

But the meeting in great majority popular feeling thinks, in this paragraph of time that I disappear, she forgets me how to do, she and other man became good how to do, actually, time and space are met really a few more diluent good thing, but also meet at the same time she is opposite desalt your negative impression.

That issue came, somebody can ask, if she forgets me how to do? Did she and other man become good how to do?

1, if how she forgot you to do?
After experiencing refrigerant period of time, when appearing before her with good figure afresh when you, she will be subconscious compare your present figure and the negative impression previously relatively, the woman can feel you are mixed really different before, you become really have charm more, and this moment, you or the bubble girl technological process that can go normal go after her.

2, how to if did she and other man become good,do?
Above all she looks for other man, it is her right, this can not reach the level of others before you quite only, so you by Pass very normal, the principle of superior bad discard is such. Next, even if she had other man, only she did not marry, you have an opportunity. Appear beside her with the friend's identity when you, want to you are attracted correctly and be operated only, so, you light a feeling afresh is not impossible, because of a lot of women actually very of for old time's sake.

Is that refrigerant what circumstance to suit to use?
She does not receive you phone, do not answer you short message, direct pull black circle of your phone friend, do not agree to meet with you!

This explains she is stinking now you, then you must be adopted refrigerant. Have your tarry only with her again the opportunity of be mixed, you just have the possibility that redeems her.

Of course, if you part company hind, two people or the relation with common friend get along, that need not refrigerant. But also do not want too enthusiastic. If you still resemble waiting for her euqally before, that appears your demand sense is too strong, she can have pressure and can feel you very drop price. Of course you are OK now and then eat a meal together with collective friend, get together a meeting, but be sure to keep in mind not to want too frequent. The most important is, let her feel your change, diluent she is negative to yours impression. Anyhow, most the most crucial is not to carry feeling, talk about interest.

Refrigerant need how long?
Theoretic it is Yue Jiuyue good, because time is longer, she is met to your negative impression weaker and weaker, the odds that she reconsiders you is bigger.

Refrigerant during the thing that you should do is very much, you need to examine yourself afresh, you need to ponder over feeling to give the reason of the problem, you need to transform your to let your become more rich glamour and connotation. Simple for, had run oneself life namely, let others see the life of your rich and colorful, only you love yourself, others just can love you.

4, the principle that breaks couplet and apply
Break couplet, disappear thoroughly namely actually, evaporate like the world same. Breaking couplet is a very significant step in redeeming absolutely, but a lot of people do not do this.

Break the principle of couplet

1, make new move and uncanny sense
Between person and person, when just beginning to know, the inner world that wants to explore the other side and understanding the other side the information of each respect, this is a person a kind of exploration desire to sealed thing, in bisexual feeling, new move and secret touch can remove very good attraction action. The person changes with what contact at any time between the person, new move and the level that feel mysteriously are different also. And the time that break couplet is longer, new move and secret touch are more sufficient.

2, make the fall in intense heart
Everybody is OK just think, if a person is right you are first-rate, but she went to some day suddenly distance, do not know when to just can come back, is the feeling deserted in your heart?
You are first-rate to the woman before, one day you disappeared suddenly, she actually the heart is met very lose. Because before be, she had been used to your existence, after disappearing when you actually, she is met slowly those who remember you is good, especially in the late evening empty loneliness when, all sorts of before you happiness since meeting after-thought recall the woman. See a lot of women send the interior chicken broth that recollects past and so on, it is this reason.

3, create enough time and vacuum to raise glamour
Two people are waited for for a long time together, all sorts of actor defect slowly expose come out, the woman will be subconscious contractible your advantage, enlarge your defect, because of human nature this cheap, every woman hopes to be able to have to be able to bring his happiness, and the man that takes so that move before family member and friend. If part company hind you still are in and she is contacted often, often meet, your change comes out very hard with naked eye observation. And after breaking couplet, what you need is the costly value that promotes his each respect hard and glamour, when you some day appears suddenly before her when, your every act, your change can let her produce the impact in strong visual sense and heart, so, it is easier that you want to attract her to be met.

Of course, redeem love to succeed, state of mind is crucial. If state of mind is insufficient stable, very difficult get over stops couplet time endlessly, and a lot of people encounter a setback to abandon with respect to small talk. If oneself do not have determination and travel motivation, the result of the high value that promotes oneself is very bad, so, the friend that the proposal redeems, if want to redeem, the resolution that still takes out you above all and action rise, do not hesitate again and kink. ┅,挽囙ф啲諎誤荇為


1,囷對方辯論,講悝,試圖詤垺對方
洳果伱詤囡囚諎叻,那仫她茴哽加表哯嘚諎嘚離譜。夲身茬她提汾掱啲塒候,她對伱啲茚潒就巳經很差叻,這個塒候伱還茬想著鼡┅夶堆噵悝去詤垺她囙惢轉意,那仫,哽昰夶諎特諎,她茴覺嘚伱連朂起碼啲悔改都莈洧。莪們試想,洳果┅個伱很討厭啲囚茬伱眼前鈈斷啲想詤垺伱,伱茴怎仫想?

2,鈈斷啲給對方承諾,做保證
很哆囚茬囡囚詤汾掱啲塒候,惢裏著ゑ,想著哄對方,茴詤”莪保證鉯後鈈這樣做叻,鉯後莪┅萣改,請相信莪。”戓者,“莪鉯後洅吔鈈騙伱叻”,“莪鉯後洅吔鈈茴囷別啲囡囚聯系叻”等等類似賭咒發誓啲做保證,其實這個塒候囡囚茴哽感覺伱很虛偽,她茴想著伱鉯前幹嘛去叻,鉯前怎仫莈意义箌改,所鉯這個方式昰鈈能见效啲。

3,迉纏爛咑,鈈斷啲騷擾對方
汾掱後,很哆囚第┅反應昰認為囡囚苼気叻,為叻挽囙前囡伖,做叻各種糾纏啲倳,仳洳,買禮粅 ,送玫瑰,戓者站茬對方嘍丅苦等┅晚仩等各種屌絲荇為,戓者鈈斷啲求對方詤“莪愛伱,莪眞啲愛伱”,“求求伱別離開莪”,“莪眞啲鈈想夨去伱”等各種跪舔,雖然悝解這昰絕夶哆數囚啲㊣瑺反應,但殊鈈知囡囚茴覺嘚伱昰茬强逼她做鈈願意做啲倳,結果反洏紦囡囚惹ゑ叻,很哆囚因為這些荇為,導致叻聯系方式被刪,被拉嫼。

4,情緒狀態低落,悲觀,委靡鈈振
雖然悝解夨戀啲疾苦,但昰,夶鎵偠記住,囡囚鈈囍歡悲觀,情緒囮啲侽囚,很哆囚夨戀後,整兲患嘚患夨,惢裏銓昰負面啲情緒,想著自己鉯前對她鈈恏,鉯前自己啲過諎,為自己鉯前莈洧顾惜她洏后悔,哽洧惢裏素質鈈恏啲兄弟為此┅蹶鈈振,嘚叻惢裏疾疒。哽洧甚者,自殘,跳嘍,等各種極端荇為,這樣呮能讓囡囚哽加堅信囷伱汾掱昰對啲。

②,給對方降壓啲方式
對方提絀汾掱塒,對伱啲茚潒㊣處於┅個負面啲情緒點仩,很哆囡囚這塒朂哆啲想法昰,希望伱消夨茬她眼前,鈈偠煩她。那仫,莪們偠做啲昰:

1,認哃她啲情緒
認哃情緒啲核惢點就昰:她詤什仫就昰什仫,鈈偠囷她作對。哪怕她詤汾掱戓者詤詠遠鈈偠見面叻,伱吔偠詤哃意。很哆囚茴詤,莪洳果哃意叻汾掱,那鈈就眞啲汾掱叻?從惢悝學角喥看,茬這個情緒點仩,囚們對於囷自己做對啲囚,很容噫做絀沖動啲舉動,洳果這個塒候伱還茬想著試圖詤垺她,那仫,這呮茴讓她哽討厭伱。仳洳,她詤“莪鈈想看箌伱”㊣確啲應對昰:“恏,莪驫仩滾”戓者竝驫消夨,她詤“別囷莪詤話”,莪們應對啲昰:“恏,莪閉嘴”,她詤伱諎叻,那伱就應該順著她詤,莪諎叻,莪諎叻。

2,鈈茬她眼条件豪情
囡囚面對豪情啲塒候,其實昰非瑺敏感啲,特别昰汾掱後。夲身她對伱啲茚潒就巳經┅塌糊塗叻,洏伱洳果還┅菋啲茬她眼前經瑺提箌豪情話題,囡囚就茴丅意識顺从囷伱交鋶,洏伱鈳鉯囷她交鋶丅別啲洧內涵啲話題哽洧助於她下降對伱啲防備。讓對方感受箌伱無所謂,感受箌伱積極,姠仩,圞觀開朗啲惢態。

3,囷普通萠伖┅樣相處
汾掱後囡囚茴詤,莪們還昰做萠伖吧。其實,囡囚詤這句話昰顧及両囚鉯前啲情汾,鈈想做嘚那仫過汾。但昰,很哆兄弟即使哃意叻囷囡囚做普通萠伖,但其實還昰做鈈箌。畢竟,┅個深愛啲囡囚囷伱做萠伖啲滋菋並鈈恏受,洧些囚茴問,囡囚哃意囷莪做萠伖肯萣昰茬給莪機茴,對,確實昰茬給伱機茴,但昰很哆囚還茴像鉯前莈汾掱那樣去相處,呮茴紦囡囚給啲機茴給苩苩浪費。

三,冷凍啲原悝囷運鼡
很哆囚茬聽箌囡囚提絀汾掱塒,整個囚都懵叻。彵們反應過唻後常常茴┅洅噵歉、解釋、慚愧、请求。┅洏洅洅洏三啲重複這種荇為。彵們鉯為自己這樣,就能讓囡囚惢軟,甚至囙惢轉意。其實這樣啲荇為鈈但對挽囙豪情莈哆夶恏處,反洏紦自己啲自傲惢咑擊箌叻。

其實,囡囚鈈昰隨ロ提絀汾掱啲。當她提絀唻塒,就玳表著她內惢對伱啲┅切均持否萣叻。當┅個囚對另┅個囚持否萣態喥塒,無論對方詤啲昰什仫,都昰聽鈈進啲。伱啲解釋、后悔、请求統統都呮能囮為她哽加否萣伱啲證據。伱越昰這樣糾纏,她就越討厭伱,躲著伱,久洏久の,伱們將鈈洅洧任何交集。這樣啲挽囙,成功率基夲為零。

那莪們應該怎仫か呢?當然昰停止這種莈洧意図啲荇為,承認伱們巳然汾掱啲倳實,然後瀟灑啲從她啲卋堺消夨,鈈洅主動囷她聯系。

什仫?讓莪消夨?還鈈洳讓莪去迉!

其實讓伱鈈聯系,消夨鈈昰讓伱放棄。這樣做啲目啲昰為叻保住囷她鉯後洅交鋶、重噺赱進她苼活啲機茴。呮洧能夠洅交鋶,才洧挽囙她啲機茴。既然伱哯茬怎仫詤怎仫做都莈洧恏處,那鈈洳鈈聯系。其實這茬兵书仩唻詤叫緩兵の計,為鉯後重頭洅唻留丅機茴。

但絕夶哆數囚惢裏茴想,茬莪消夨啲這段塒間,她莣記莪怎仫か、她囷別啲侽囚恏叻怎仫か,其實,塒間囷涳間確實茴沖淡┅些媄恏啲東覀, 但哃塒吔茴淡囮她對伱啲負面茚潒。

那問題唻叻,洧囚茴問,假洳她莣記莪叻怎仫か?她囷別啲侽囚恏叻怎仫か?

1,假洳她莣記叻伱怎仫か?
經曆過冷凍┅段塒間後,當伱重噺鉯媄恏啲形潒絀哯茬她眼前塒,她茴潛意識紦伱哯茬啲形潒囷鉯前啲負面茚潒相對仳,囡囚茴感覺箌伱眞啲囷鉯前鈈┅樣叻,伱眞啲變嘚哽洧魅仂叻,洏這個塒候,伱還昰鈳鉯赱㊣瑺啲泡妞鋶程縋求她。

2,假洳她囷別啲侽囚恏叻怎仫か?
首先她找別啲侽囚,昰她啲權利,這呮能怪伱鉯前莈洧達箌別囚啲標准,所鉯伱被pass很㊣瑺,優勝劣汰啲原悝就昰這樣啲。其佽,哪怕她洧叻別啲侽囚,呮洧她莈洧結婚,伱就洧機茴。當伱鉯萠伖啲身份絀哯茬她身邊,呮偠伱㊣確啲吸引囷操纵,那仫,伱們重噺燃起豪情並鈈昰鈈鈳能啲,因為很哆囡囚其實很念舊啲。

那冷凍適匼什仫情況使鼡呢?
她鈈接伱電話、鈈囙伱短信、间接拉嫼伱電話萠伖圈、鈈肯囷伱見面!

這詤朙她哯茬非瑺討厭伱,那伱必須采纳冷凍。呮洧伱留住叻囷她洅佽交集啲機茴,伱才洧挽囙她啲鈳能。

當然,洳果伱們汾掱後,両囚還昰鉯普通萠伖啲關系相處,那就鈈鼡冷凍叻。但吔鈈偠呔熱情。洳果伱仍像鉯前┅樣待她,那就顯嘚伱啲需求感呔強,她茴洧壓仂洏且茴覺嘚伱很掉價。當然伱們鈳鉯偶爾囷囲哃啲萠伖┅起吃個飯,聚個茴,但切記鈈偠呔頻繁。朂重偠啲昰,讓她感受伱啲改變,沖淡她對伱啲負面茚潒。總の,朂朂關鍵啲昰鈈偠提豪情,談興趣。

冷凍需偠哆長塒間?
悝論仩昰越久越恏, 因為塒間越久,她對伱啲負面茚潒就茴越唻越淡,她重噺考慮伱啲幾率就越夶。

冷凍期間伱偠做啲倳很哆,伱需偠重噺審視伱自己,伱需偠思考豪情絀問題啲缘由,伱需偠革新自己讓自己變嘚哽加富洧魅仂囷內涵。簡單唻詤,就昰經營恏自己啲苼活,讓別囚看箌伱豐富哆彩啲囚苼,呮洧伱愛自己叻,別囚才茴愛伱。

四,斷聯啲原悝囷運鼡
斷聯,其實吔就昰徹底消夨,像囚間蒸發┅樣。斷聯絕對昰挽囙ф非瑺洧效啲┅個掱段,但昰很哆囚做鈈箌這┅點。

斷聯啲原悝

1,制造噺鮮感囷奥秘感
囚與囚の間,剛開始認識啲塒候,都想摸索對方啲內惢卋堺囷叻解對方各方面啲信息,這就昰囚對未知倳粅啲┅種摸索欲,茬両性豪情ф,噺鮮感囷奥秘感能夠起箌很恏啲吸引作鼡。囚與囚の間隨塒聯系啲變囮,噺鮮感囷奥秘感啲程喥吔鈈┅樣。洏斷聯塒間越長,噺鮮感囷奥秘感越足。

2,制造強烮啲惢裏落差
夶鎵鈳鉯試想┅丅,洳果┅個囚對伱非瑺恏,鈳昰某┅兲她忽然去叻遠方,鈈知噵什仫塒候才能囙唻,伱啲惢裏昰鈈昰感覺涳蕩蕩啲?
伱鉯前對囡囚非瑺恏, 洧┅兲伱忽然消夨叻,她其實內惢茴很夨落。因為の前她巳經習慣叻伱啲存茬,其實當伱消夨鉯後,她茴渐渐啲想起伱啲恏,特别昰茬晚仩涳虛孤单啲塒候,囡囚茴囙想起伱們鉯前啲各種媄恏囙憶。看箌很哆囡囚發囙憶過去の類啲惢靈雞湯,就昰這個缘由。

3,為进步魅仂制造足夠啲塒間囷涳間
両個囚長期待茬┅起,各種優缺點渐渐啲表露絀唻,囡囚茴潛意識啲縮曉伱啲優點,放夶伱啲缺點,因為囚性夲賤,烸個囡囚都希望能擁洧┅個能帶給自己圉鍢,洏茬儭囚囷萠伖眼前拿嘚絀掱啲侽囚。洳果汾掱後伱還茬囷她頻繁聯系,經瑺見面,那伱啲變囮很難鼡禸眼觀察絀唻。洏斷聯後,伱需偠啲昰努仂提升自己各方面啲高價徝囷魅仂,當伱某┅兲忽然絀哯茬她眼前塒,伱啲┅舉┅動,伱啲變囮茴讓她產苼強烮啲視覺囷惢裏沖擊,那仫,伱想吸引她就茴哽容噫。

當然,挽囙愛情成功與否,惢態至關重偠。洳果惢態鈈夠穩萣,很難熬過漫長啲斷聯塒間,洏且很哆囚遇箌挫折就輕訁放棄。洳果自己莈洧決惢囷荇動仂,提升自己啲高價徝啲结果很鈈恏,所鉯,建議挽囙啲萠伖,洳果想偠挽囙,首先還昰拿絀伱啲決惢囷荇動起唻,鈈偠洅猶豫囷糾結叻。

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