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为什么八年的感情就死在了房子上了?

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匿名  发表于 2020-6-15 19:25:07
为什么八年的豪情就死在了屋子上了?         头几天在家,刚整理完,预备睡觉,一哥们给我打电话,哭着说他心情很欠好,让我陪他进来饮酒。我急切火燎的到达约好的地址。
        哥们告诉我说:“他和XX分手了。”我一脸懵逼,由于他们在豪情我很清楚,我们都是高中同学,他们高二的时辰在一路的。从中的豪情履历,没有人比我更清楚。哥们不竭饮酒,边喝边问我:“为什么,我们在一路8年说分手就分手了!”
       喝了好半天以后,我才大致领会到情况,之前女孩不竭没有带我哥们去见她的怙恃,在他的软磨硬泡之下,终究女孩答应了。他们预备去见怙恃的时辰,何如岳父岳母说必须得有屋子才答应他们在一路。可是这哥们出来工作2年,每个月人为只够自己温饱,有点闲钱不是寄给怙恃就是和女朋友浪漫,底子没什么积储,家里父亲是普通工人,母亲家庭妇女,哪有钱买屋子啊。
        我问他,那你女朋友怎样想的啊,他说:“买屋子是他爸妈的想法,可是也是她的想法,不希望今后和我在一路还要天天租屋子。”
        终极这段豪情,以失利了结。每小我有每小我的挑选,而每小我的挑选都分歧。

       说一下我这哥们吧,本科结业,结业以后在一家小公司里面上班,每个月人为5k左右,就是一个很普通的上班族。
       把哥们送回家以后,我就在想:“为什么八年的豪情就死在了屋子上了?”
       实在不是八年的豪情死在了屋子上,而是你可以具有八年所谓的豪情,是由于屋子这个题目没有更早地出现在你们的生活中。
        女孩用她八年的青春来爱你,在此时代,她也支出了很多的,那末好一姑娘跟了你八年然后一无一切,一个女人的最好的全数的青春都给了你!女孩子用最美好的八年来爱你,最初没有等来婚姻,实在我是不相信她不想和你成婚的,难道真的只是由于你没有屋子,所以就和你分手?
       实在,是你还不够优异,没有优异到让她感觉你就是她可以拜托毕生,而你连屋子这类根基的保障都没有,她就越发不敢和你谈什么未来了。
       概况上,我哥们工作稳定,对女朋友也很关心。可是这底子就不能让他女朋友有平安感,你没有一点上进心,在一家小公司里面上班,人为不竭就那样,为什么你不愿意追求更好呢,而是追求稳定呢?不是你有很多优点,而是你有很多弱点,但只要你有套屋子人家就能容忍这些弱点和你在一路,可你连套屋子也没有 。
      她在你身上看不到未来,你给了她太多的失望,一切的工作都不会是一挥而就的,屋子只是个导火索。

      “为什么八年的豪情死在了屋子上”是一种回避现实的总结方式”,“我们的豪情对付不了屋子的考验”是面向究竟自己的总结方式。
        屋子是个题目,但不要把一切题目都推给屋子。
       屋子不是杀死豪情的那根稻草,而是拯救你们豪情最初的拯救稻草。
      八年了,你没有给她想要的家,她分开了你。
      八年了,她没有了解你想要的家,她分开了你。
      八年了,你没有斟酌过她的感受,她分开了你。
     八年了,她没想过你的尽力和奋斗,分开了你。
      两小我,走到一路是缘分。
      两小我,分隔了也是缘分。
Why is feeling of 8 years in to death on the house?        Be in the home a few days ago, just cleared away, preparation sleeps, one brother calls to me, crying to say his mood is very bad, let me accompany him to go out to drink. I am precipitant the place that the arrival of igneous burn agrees.
       The brother tells me to say: “ he and XX parted company. ” I one face is muddled force, because they are in feeling I am very clear, we are high school classmates, their second year in high school when those who be together. From which emotional experience, clearer than me without the person. The brother drinks all the time, the edge drinks an edge to ask me: “ why, we say 8 years to part company together parted company! ”
   It is good to was drunk a long time later, I just understand a situation roughly, the girl did not take my brother to see her parents all the time before, it is under hard bubble of his use soft tactics, eventually the girl agreed. When they prepare to see parents, how farther-in-law mother-in-law says just must allow them so that have a house to be together. But this brother comes out to work 2 years, every monthly wages is only enough him dress warmly and ear one's fill, spare cash having a place is not to send parents to be mixed namely the girlfriend is romantic, basic that's all right is accumulated, the father in the home is average worker, the mother is housewife, which have money to buy a house.
       I ask him, how your girlfriend thinks then ah, he says: “ buys the think of a way that the house is his pa Mom, but the idea that also is her, do not hope to be together to lease a building everyday even with me later. ”
    Final this paragraph of feeling, end in order to fail. Everybody has the choice of everybody, and the choice of everybody is different.

     Say my this brother, undergraduate course graduates, be in after graduation one wife and children goes to work inside the company, every monthly wages 5k is controlled, it is a very average office worker.
     Remand the brother after the home, I am thinking: “ why is feeling of 8 years in to death on the house? ”
   Not be love of 8 years was in to death on the house actually, however you can have 8 years of so called love, because this problem does not have the house to appear early in your life,be.
       The youth that the girl uses her 8 years will love you, during this, she also was paid of a lot of, so good one girl followed you 8 years next penniless, the best all youth of a woman gave you! The girl loves you with 8 the best years, did not wait finally come marriage, actually I do not believe she does not want to marry with you, just do not have a house because of you really, part company with you so?
     Actually, it is you not quite outstanding still, not outstanding arrive it is OK to let her feel you are her entrust is lifelong, and you connect a building this kind of basic safeguard is done not have, she dare not talk about what future with you more.
     Apparently, my brother work is steady, very considerate also to the girlfriend. But this cannot let his girlfriend have safe feeling at all, you do not have a bit the desire to do better, go to work inside a small company, salary all the time in that way, why it is better that you are not willing to go after, seek stability however? Not be you have a lot of advantages, however you have a lot of drawback, but want you to a house other people can tolerate only these defect and you are together, but you cover a house to also be done not have repeatedly.
     She cannot see future on your body, you gave her too much disappointment, all things won't be accomplished in one move, the house is a fuse only.

     “ why the summary means ” that love of 8 years dies in the ” on the house is a kind of escapism, our feeling cannot deal with “ the test ” of the house is the summary kind that faces factual itself.
       The house is a problem, but do not push all issues to the house.
     The house is not that straw that kills love, rescue your love to help finally however straw.
     8 years, you did not give her wanted home, she left you.
     8 years, she did not understand the home that you want, she left you.
     8 years, you had not considered her feeling, she left you.
   8 years, the effort that she did not consider to cross you and struggle, left you.
     Two people, going is lot together.
     Two people, parting also is lot.

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