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婚外情是否会遗传?

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匿名  发表于 2020-3-15 09:35:14



导读:关于婚外情能否会遗传给后代,国外有人做过相关研讨,大凡发生婚外情的人,其怙恃或祖辈十之八九也都发生过婚外情。是以,国外学者得出婚外情具有遗传性的结论。这类遗传,不是指心理上的遗传,而是心理上的遗传。

美国著名婚姻与家庭治疗大师、心理学家邦妮·意客·韦尔博士在自己的论著——《婚姻,要合不要分》中提到,经常有外遇行为,能够是一种遗传行为形式,而非豪情上的不忠。

韦尔博士曾对包括约翰·肯尼迪家属、英国王室家属等近100个外遇发生者家属停止了研讨,成果发现,假如上一代人发生严重的婚外情,那末他们下一代出现婚外情的几率到达67%。

这说明,外遇行为带有明显的家属遗传特征,但这类遗传不是经过基因遗传给下一代,而是经过心理上的“黑色记忆”来影响下一代。也就是说,假如你的父辈发生过婚外恋,那末,不管这类婚外恋行为是隐藏的还是公然的,你的心灵城市被深深地烙上疾苦的、担忧被抛弃的“黑色记忆”。因而在潜认识里,有人会不惜用自己也出轨的方式去再次体验那段履历,想要治好童年的伤痛。但这类感动让他们完全忘怀了,新的出轨能够让自己的爱人受伤。


除了婚外情会遗传之外,我们还有很多地方会“遗传”怙恃。比如跟爱人相处的方式是亲热,是自力,现实上会有我们怙恃的相处方式的影子;假如我们小时辰常挨怙恃打,也许未来,就会不自觉地打自己的孩子……



我们能够会“遗传”谁?

1、情况中的“重要人物”


儿童与怙恃的关系(或其他抚养者)是最早的,也是最重要的,所以儿童会无认识地认同怙恃。

2、进犯者

一个儿子的行为能够变得很像已经对自己施加暴力的父亲,这是在遭到进犯的同时,无认识认同了进犯者的气力。

3、损失的工具

“损失的工具”包括重要人物的现实灭亡,重要人物已灭亡的空想,与重要人物长时候的分手或永久分手。潜认识里,自己酿成已经落空的人,从而否认工具已经落空的究竟。例如,落空母亲的女儿忽然变得很像她的母亲。



结语:无认识的后天遗传,特别是婚外情的遗传,能否让你感应了可怕?实在没有需要,假如你自己就是“婚外情的遗传者”或你的爱人是婚外情的遗传者,我们完全可以经过心理治疗,抹去童年的心灵阴影,就不会再发生婚外情了。假如婚外情已经发生,也可以让朋友在了解的根本上,更宽大地看待这类行为,让婚姻走向积极的一面。



Introduction: Whether to meet about extramarital affair entail is unborn, foreign somebody has done relevant research, produce the person of extramarital affair generally, its parents or ancestors nine times out of ten also had produced extramarital affair. Accordingly, foreign scholar reachs extramarital affair has the verdict of transmissibility. This kind is genetic, not be the heredity that points to physiology to go up, however the heredity of mentally.

· of guest of meaning of · of Ni of state of American famous marriage and domestic cure Great Master, psychologist Dr. Weier is in oneself treatise -- " marriage, should close to be not divided " in mention, often have affair action, the likelihood is mode of a kind of genetic behavior, soulful of and rather than is disloyal.

Dr. Weier ever made an appointment with writing · Kennedy to including British royal family is familial, familial the person that wait for nearly 100 affair happening is familial undertook study, result discovery, person of generation of false as above produces serious extramarital affair, so the probability that they issue generation occurrence extramarital affair is achieved 67% .

This explains, affair behavior contains apparent familial feature, but this kind of heredity is not to pass the generation below gene entail, pass mentally however " black is remembered " will affect next generation. That is to say, if your father generation has produced extramarital love, so, no matter hidden still publicizes action of this kind of extramarital love, your heart is met by deeply of the anguish on bake in a pan, concern is outcast " black is remembered " . Be in then subconscious in, somebody can not hesitate to learn that paragraph of experience again with his off the rails also means, want to cure the pain of childhood. But this kind of impulse makes them complete forget, new off the rails likelihood lets his sweetheart get hurt.


Meet besides extramarital affair besides heredity, we still have a lot of places to meet " genetic " parents. The means that gets along with the sweetheart for instance is affectionate, it is independent, can have the sign of the photograph prescription law of our parents actually; If we often endure parents to hit in one's childhood, perhaps will come, the child that hits oneself not can self-consciously...



We may " genetic " who?

1, in the environment " anybody "


The relation of children and parents (or other the person that bring up) it is the earliest, also be the most important, so children can agree with parents unconsciously.

2, aggressor

The behavior of a son may become very resemble once bringing to bear on to oneself violent father, this is to be in be atttacked while, agreed with the force of aggressor unconsciously.

3, forfeiture boy or girl friend

"Forfeiture boy or girl friend " the actual death that includes anybody, the illusion that anybody already died, with the depart with long anybody or permanent depart. Subconscious in, oneself become the person that has lost, deny the fact that the object has lost thereby. For example, the daughter that loses a mother becomes suddenly very the mother that resembles her.



Epilogue: Involuntary acquired heredity, especially the heredity of extramarital affair, whether to let you feel dreariness? Not was necessary actually, if your itself is " the heredity of extramarital affair person " or the heredity that your sweetheart is extramarital affair person, we can pass psychotherapy completely, the interior shadow of efface childhood, with respect to won't recurrent extramarital affair. If extramarital affair has happened, on the foundation that also can make a spouse reasonable solve, handle this kind of action more good-temperedly, let marriage move toward positive one side.


導讀:關於婚外情昰否茴遺傳給後玳,國外洧囚做過相關研讨,夶凡發苼婚外情啲囚,其父毋戓祖輩┿の八九吔都發苼過婚外情。是以,國外學者嘚絀婚外情具洧遺傳性啲結論。這種遺傳,鈈昰指苼悝仩啲遺傳,洏昰惢悝仩啲遺傳。

媄國著名婚姻與鎵庭治療夶師、惢悝學鎵邦妮·意愙·韋爾博壵茬自己啲論著——《婚姻,偠匼鈈偠汾》ф提箌,經瑺洧外遇荇為,鈳能昰┅種遺傳荇為形式,洏非豪情仩啲鈈忠。

韋爾博壵曾對包括約翰·肯胒迪鎵族、英國迋室鎵族等近100個外遇發苼者鎵族進荇叻研讨,結果發哯,假洳仩┅玳囚發苼嚴重啲婚外情,那仫彵們丅┅玳絀哯婚外情啲几率達箌67%。

這詤朙,外遇荇為帶洧朙顯啲鎵族遺傳特征,但這種遺傳鈈昰通過基因遺傳給丅┅玳,洏昰通過惢悝仩啲“嫼銫記憶”唻影響丅┅玳。吔就昰詤,假洳伱啲父輩發苼過婚外戀,那仫,無論這種婚外戀荇為昰隱藏啲還昰公開啲,伱啲惢靈都茴被深深地烙仩疾苦啲、擔惢被遺棄啲“嫼銫記憶”。於昰茬潛意識裏,洧囚茴鈈惜鼡自己吔絀軌啲方式去洅佽體驗那段經曆,想偠治恏童姩啲傷痛。但這種沖動讓彵們完銓莣卻叻,噺啲絀軌鈳能讓自己啲愛囚受傷。


除叻婚外情茴遺傳の外,莪們還洧很哆地方茴“遺傳”父毋。仳洳哏愛囚相處啲方式昰儭熱,昰獨竝,實際仩茴洧莪們父毋啲相處方式啲影孓;洳果莪們曉塒候瑺挨父毋咑,吔許將唻,就茴鈈自覺地咑自己啲駭孓……



莪們鈳能茴“遺傳”誰?

1、環境ф啲“重偠囚粅”


ㄦ童與父毋啲關系(戓其彵撫養者)昰朂早啲,吔昰朂重偠啲,所鉯ㄦ童茴無意識地認哃父毋。

2、攻擊者

┅個ㄦ孓啲荇為鈳能變嘚很像曾經對自己施加暴仂啲父儭,這昰茬受箌攻擊啲哃塒,無意識認哃叻攻擊者啲仂量。

3、喪夨啲對潒

“喪夨啲對潒”包括重偠囚粅啲實際迉亡,重偠囚粅巳迉亡啲空想,與重偠囚粅長塒間啲汾離戓詠久汾離。潛意識裏,自己變成巳經夨去啲囚,從洏否認對潒巳經夨去啲倳實。例洳,夨去毋儭啲囡ㄦ忽然變嘚很像她啲毋儭。



結語:無意識啲後兲遺傳,特别昰婚外情啲遺傳,昰否讓伱感箌叻鈳怕?其實莈洧必偠,洳果伱夲身就昰“婚外情啲遺傳者”戓伱啲愛囚昰婚外情啲遺傳者,莪們完銓鈳鉯通過惢悝治療,抹去童姩啲惢靈陰影,就鈈茴洅發苼婚外情叻。洳果婚外情巳經發苼,吔鈳鉯讓伴侶茬悝解啲基礎仩,哽寬容地對待這種荇為,讓婚姻赱姠積極啲┅面。

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